Going through my weeb tags I found this post (the first one that I replied to) that made me want to pull my hair out. See how hurt this girl’s feelings are because she can’t have something more ~exotic~special~different~unique? So I went through her archive to find a post that could have caused someone to tell her she can’t have a Korean name and then I found the second one. Her thinking about which last name she should use.
First of all, let me tell you how really fucking ignorant she is since 1. last names never change for a simple reason like ‘I want to change my name’ like just no never happens anywhere. 2. Lim/림 isn’t a common name at all, especially not in South Korea. In North Korean, however, 임 (Im, a rather common last name) is written as 림 so that could lead to very awkward situations. You don’t really want to be mistaken as a North Korean, unless you enjoy being treated like a dog.
Secondly. Korean names aren’t just a ‘mix and match game’. You can’t just put Min and Yeon together because it sounds cute. Our names don’t work that way. If that was how we got our names, there would be people with the names 새기 (close to 새끼 (saekki) which means bastard, 변태 (byuntae) (pervert), 생선 (saengseon, fish), 관리 (gwalli, administration)), 소주 (soju), 숙성 (sooksung, aging) and none of those make much sense as names. Parents put effort in choosing their child’s name, they base themselves on their ancestors, cultural history, their family’s past, the province they’re from, the dialect they speak and these are only a few examples. You can’t just take Korean sounding syllables and put them together, especially if you don’t know the meaning of those syllables and of the name you get in the end. (I think we’ve all seen this game based on Korean and Japanese names, “what’s your exotic name? take your birthday numbers and find your name!!!!”, it’s the same shit as what this girl is trying to do)
But what angered me most is how she thinks it’s not harmful, how she thinks people are psychotic for protecting their culture, how she has the right to have a Korean name and even Koreans should just deal with that because she’s oh so special. No. Every fucking day I spend in a place where Korean isn’t the main language, I get made fun of.
People have no shame in laughing at my name when I’m right there in front of them. My last name is Ham. English speaking people are most likely going to pronounce that has ham, hem. It’s Ham with an AAAAAAAAAA not an E in the middle. 함함함함 and I repeat it countless times. I try to speak slowly and clearly just to make sure they get it, but no. People think it’s funny so they disregard my effort and they make my favorite joke; the ham and cheese joke. “Do you come with cheese?”, “You must be tasty”, “Do you ever get discounts on ham?” and that’s only three.
My given name is I-Ryang/Iryang (pronounced as Ee-Ryang with the same A as in Ham ^^) Once they’ve noticed how it’s spelled, they start joking about me being the next possible Apple product. “Oh iRyang like an iPhone!” or the most recent one I heard: “E.T. phone home, Ee-Ryang phone home” my eyes almost rolled out of my skull upon hearing that.
My sister’s last syllable if Rim (림). I still remember some ignorant teen boys asking her if she liked rimming, or making other gross remarks like “She must like rimming since she even put the word in her name!”
Every fucking day. Even when I call them out on it. They don’t see the problem. It’s “just a joke”. It isn’t harmful because “it’s an innocent joke.”, I need to ‘get over it’ because it’s ‘just’ a name. "Get an English name if you want to be respected." Because things are that easy right?
Every fucking day I get made fun of. I need to tell people my name is Yang or Ryang because Iryang is too special, too much of an effort. I usually need to get official documents redone because they managed to fuck up once again. My name has 187918 different spellings because I need to simplify it enough so white people will understand and be able to write it too. I get weird stares when I tell people my name, people tell me how to write my own fucking name, people tell me how to pronounce my name because the way I do is ‘probably is gonna be too difficult for English speakers’.
The question “What’s your name?” is the most stressful fucking question in my life because I know that by telling them, I’ll be mistreated and this girl thinks it’s cool. It’s exotic, it’s unique, it’s special, she deserves it and I need to see a psychiatrist to get over my own problems because I don’t appreciate people misusing my culture, because I don’t appreciate being mistreated and disregarded for being myself, while girls like her can get away with it.
destroy the idea of the “average father” coveting his daughter’s virginity and “protective brother” making sure no men lay their unholy eyes upon his sister who has given them full permission.
slaughter the idea that men are allowed to be gatekeepers for sex and have a duty or a right to “save women from themselves” when it comes to sex
kill the purity myth
I saw my earlier selves as different people, acquaintances I had outgrown. I wondered how I could ever have been some of them.
Roger Zelazny, The Courts of Chaos (via wordsnquotes)
Jessica Williams and Travon (one of the staff writers) do it again!
This is why white women can’t be in the natural hair movement
Had to bold that comment
The most dangerous phrase in the language is, “we’ve always done it this way.”
(taken from this post on the experiments of Harry Harlow)
This is serious business, because this is a large part of how sexism, racism, homophobia, rape culture, ethnocentrism, etc. continue to happen.
Microsoft Excel took a turn for the explicit this week when the Internet learned the once-innocuous office tool was being used in a dispiriting new bro-trend: using the software to track of the number of times their partners refuse sex. Yes, #sexspreadsheets are a thing, presumably because some men still believe that owning of a penis entitles them to unlimited sexy times.
I am SICK and TIRED of people objecting to seeing women using their breasts for what they are actually for. BREASTFEEDING IS NOT VULGAR OR OBSCENE.
I support breastfeeding all the way, even if it is in public.
And the award winning one:
THIS. THIS. THIS/
Just as some within the Jewish community condemn Israel’s violent operation in Gaza by decrying “Not in my name,” we too must speak out against the unthinkable acts of violence that threaten to take place in ours. Anyone who claims to speak for Palestine while condoning acts of bigotry against our Semitic brothers and sisters should not be speaking on our behalf at all, let alone for those suffering in Gaza. Palestinians know firsthand what it’s like to be oppressed on the basis of identity; the last thing we should allow is for our peers and allies to hypocritically do the same.
No future at Hampton University
brainwash, institutionalize, sellout,
self-hatred, stupid ignorant culturally ignorant
racism black on black
I am re-blogging this because just knowing about it is not enough, contact information for Hampton University. Do what Malcolm would have done
because being black is seen as being unprofessional
Howard is the real HU anyway *flips locs*
Elements of Sex Trafficking
Act: Recruitment, transportation, transfer, harbouring or receipt of persons;
Means: Threat or use of force, coercion, abduction, fraud, deception, abuse of power or vulnerability, or giving payments or benefits to a person in control of the victim;
Purpose: Prostitution of others, sexual exploitation, forced labor or services, or slavery.
- From the 2000 UN Protocol to Prevent, Suppress and Punish Trafficking in Persons, Especially Women and Children, ratified by 154 countries. (x)
[Highlighted elements of sex trafficking in the porn industry connect with the examples Lubben gives in this specific gifset, other elements do occur in the porn industry as well].
"The federal Trafficking Victims Protection Act defines the crime of human trafficking as:
A. The recruitment, harboring, transportation, provision, or obtaining of a person for the purpose of a commercial sex act where such an act is induced by force, fraud, or coercion, or in which the person induced to perform such act has not attained 18 years of age, or
B. The recruitment, harboring, transportation, provision, or obtaining of a person for labor or services, through the use of force, fraud, or coercion for the purpose of subjection to involuntary servitude, peonage, debt bondage, or slavery.” - (x)
… [P]ersons are trafficked into the international sex trade, often by force, fraud, or coercion. The sex industry has rapidly expanded over the past several decades. It involves sexual exploitation of persons, predominantly women and girls, involving activities related to prostitution, pornography, sex tourism, and other commercial sexual services. The low status of women in many parts of the world has contributed to a burgeoning of the trafficking industry. -
The Victims of Trafficking and Violence Prevention Act (TVPA). TVPA combats trafficking in persons, especially into the sex trade, slavery, and involuntary servitude. It has been reauthorized three times since its initial passage: (x)
THAT IS RAPE
We need to be talking about this and we need to be making sex work safe. No one should be made to feel like this treatment is okay.